我们如何掉进了情网的圈套?

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我们如何掉进了情网的圈套?

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我们如何掉进了情网的圈套?依恋是什麽……
德加尼亚禅师 维安正念小站 2018-12-15

以下的分享来自马来西亚禅修者Sheng Bin Chiu 的德加尼亚禅师小参记录,由来自香港的Opal禅友翻译为中文。感谢这些贤友的分享。

《德加尼亚禅师谈依恋》
Sayadaw U Tejaniya, on attachment:

让我们一起把依恋拆解到它的本质。你可能被一个特定的人吸引,然后你以为你「喜欢一整个人」。你其实喜欢这个人的什麽东西?

Let’s deconstruct an attachment down to its nature. You may be attracted to a particular person and you think you like the person as a whole. What exactly is it that you like about this person?

你喜欢他们的眼睛或是头髮?你喜欢他们行为举止的方式,还是喜欢他们笑的方式?还是你是被一种心理素质所吸引?

Do you like their eyes or hair? Do you like the way they behave or way they smile? Are you attracted to a mental quality?

你对这个人有没有一些概念?他们善良吗?他们是不是能够给你一些东西,或是一些感受,是你在别的地方得不到的?

Do you have some idea about this person? Are they kind? Do they give you something or some feeling that you do not get elsewhere?
是那一种特质让心自愿作茧自缚?

What particular characteristic is the mind wrapping itself around?

愚痴实在太强大了,我们最初是被一种特定的特质吸引,但当我们逐渐让自己深陷在这个对象上时,我们坚决地相信,我们喜欢的是一个整体。

Delusion is so strong that we are initially attracted to a particular characteristic but as we move trapped towards the object, we firmly believe we like the whole thing.

愚痴在散播一个见:「这个整体实在太美好了!」只有一个或两个特质迷住了我们,然后愚痴却让我们完全掉进了情网的圈套,以为这是全部。

Delusion spreads the view that this whole thing is fantastic! Only one or two characteristics reel us in and then delusion ensnares us whole.

再补充一段德加尼亚禅师开示有关伴侣的执著
SUT Kalaw Retreat 2016 Day 8 Dhamma Discussion Group D File: 20160404 (1:06:26-1:07:55)

德加尼亚禅师2016年 Kalaw禅修营开示选集

English by:Sheng Bin Chiu.
中文翻译:张磊 Kevin

Unnoticed, attachment constantly grows in your life – so, wake up!
不经意之间,执著在日常生活不断滋长。醒醒吧!

SUT: When 2 persons stay together, delusion is growing although they don’t know how much they’re attached to each other. Enjoying life, unconsciously delusion is working – attachment is slowly growing – even though we’re not aware of it, but the mind is doing its job.
德师:当两个人在一起时,例如伴侣,彼此的烦恼已在不断增长,即便他们并不了知互相有多麽贪爱彼此。我们享受生活的同时,彼此的执著就如此这般的缓慢滋长。就算对此毫无觉知,心依旧如此运作,烦恼继续蔓延,拦都拦不住:)

When the partner leaves you, then you’ll notice how much the mind suffers because you have been staying with delusion.
当我们的伴侣离去时,我们这才注意到心有多麽的痛苦。因为,你我之前总是与无明相伴,(而不是智慧)。

When the opposite comes, then the pendulum effect (as much as the mind is attached, that much the mind will suffer when it doesn’t get the object) will show you no pity because the mind is not aware, not awake; simply deluded.
当不如意的情况发生时,钟摆效应就会显现:即对人或事有多少贪爱,失去时就有多少痛苦。这时,你将无能为力,因为没有正念相伴,没有醒觉,心只是被烦恼所笼罩。

So if you’re aware all the time, no matter how much you’re attached, you can relieve your attachment; and then, when any bad situation comes, you can let go easier – ‘okay, bye, bye, da, da, finished’.
所以,如果你能够保持持续的觉知,那麽无论你有多少执著,你都可以释然。无论情况有多麽的糟糕,我们还是可以泰然处之,微笑的说再见。
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